<June 19/12> So, sometimes I marvel at the average human bean’s fascination with packaging. We seem to care so very very much about what things look like – & often so very very little about the real substance of things. Or people. Or situations.
Are we really such superficial creatures??
Just reading a novel in which two young women recently arrived from China (circa World War II) mention Hollywood. I marvel at how utterly fascinated most of us seem to be with celebrities & their shenanigans. (Hollywood, as we all know, is a place where people are engaged in dressing up & pretending to be other people. Authentic inauthenticity, or something like that.)
I guess our fascination with fancy packaging & Hollywood’s many exciting marriages, divorces, scandals & excesses brings together 2 of our apparent needs. Our obsession with looking good, & our deep attachment to drama. My but we love our little dramas, don’t we??
I’ve met people who sabotage relationships – or at the very least ride out extremely roller-coaster-y relationships – out of their (presumably subconscious) need for drama. I’ve read some, & I understand that some folks who grew up with lots of drama & family commotion & extreme dysfunction (parents fighting, crazy parental goings-on of all kinds, abuse) become addicted to drama. A “calm” or “normal” (whatever that is?) life bores them to tears – again, on a subconscious level. So they make darn sure there will usually be plenty of drama (&/or plenty of mind-altering substances).
Me, I find roller-coaster-y soap opera-ish relationships & situations too darn exhausting. They drain me emotionally, & then I wind up physically exhausted (maybe it’s the other way around. Either way, I wind up exhausted & worn out).
It’s taken me a long while to grasp all this, & I guess not everyone on the planet does understand it.
It all sends me back to Eckhart Tolle, whom I used to mention frequently when I first started blogging. He’s so wise – so insightful – so helpful to read &/or watch & listen to. I go back to him for his insights again & again. (Some of my own blog postings about him are here & here & here & here. I also bought some of his CDs, here & greatly enjoyed his Webcasts with Oprah.)
DO read his book A New Earth – Awakening to Your Life’s Purpose. You will not regret it!!
p.s. with so much of our energy taken up with trying to look good, & with a parade of dramas most of the time (our own or someone else’s), there’s not much energy left over for matters of real substance, is there??
p.p.s. Tolle totally gets it about drama, btw.