Fair?

<Jan. 15/12.>

For some unknown reason, I’ve been a sucker for “fairness” all my life.

My ancestors are from Scottish clans (with a native Canadian grandmother thrown into the mix, apparently), & maybe this explains it.

Maybe I’m just some kind of sucker. Maybe I was born to be a leftie, commie, pinko, radical anarchist type…or maybe life circumstances made me that way (my family of origin is at least ¾ of the way up on the family dysfunctionality scale). Or maybe both. Or neither.

Whatever.

All I know is, ever since I was about 14 years old I’ve thought that working to make the world “better” – safer, saner, kinder, cleaner, more fair – is a pretty worthwhile use for my life energy.

I still do, actually.

Last night I watched a National Geographic special on “Wild Sex” – about sex in the “animal kingdom.” Of course we humans are animals ourselves – but the show was about critters other than human beings.

What an eye-opener!!

Homosexual behaviour among dolphins. Rape among sea lions. Over-the-top obsession with sex among the bonobos. Violence & “swinging” among snow geese (a species I had always previously heard described as monogamous).

It made me view human nature in a slightly different way. It almost made me understand our “rogue” behaviour as human beings. Excessive testosterone is not just a problem for our own species, clearly…

“But it’s not fair.”

So I have so very, very often thought, & said (usually rather plaintively). It’s possibly not a good thing, exactly, that I can probably be blamed for bequeathing utterly unrealistic expectations about fairness to my children.

Well. Sigh.

I still say, making a life’s work out of attempts to render life on Planet Earth safer…kinder…cleaner…more fair…has not been a foolish way to expend a lot of my energy & efforts.

Janet

p.s. & I will almost certainly keep at it, for better or for worse!

‘Quote of the day’ with this post: “Never be discouraged from being an activist because people tell you that you will not succeed. You have already succeeded if you’re out there representing truth or justice or compassion or fairness or love.” – Doris Haddock (Granny D), who walked across America at the age of 89, to highlight the need for campaign finance reform

Runners-up (admittedly pretty arbitrary choices; bear in mind I have a 94-page ‘Quotations’ document up my sleeve & can always overwhelm myself & others with awesome awesome awesome choices):

“The only people for me are the mad ones, the ones who are mad to live, mad to talk, mad to be saved, desirous of everything at the same time, the ones who never yawn or say a commonplace thing, but burn, burn, burn like fabulous yellow roman candles exploding like spiders across the stars...” Jack Kerouac

“’Be fair,” say the temporizers, “tell both sides of the story.” But how can you be fair to both sides of a rape? Of a murder?Of a massacre?” – Edward Abbey, “A Voice Crying in the Wilderness”

“But people desire fair government. You say that constantly.” “They want to believe in heroes, also. And villains. Especially when frightened. It’s less taxing than the truth.” – conversation between Trotsky & book’s main character, in The Lacuna, a fascinating novel by Barbara Kingsolver (pg. 244)

“Energy always flows either toward hope, community, love, generosity, mutual recognition, and spiritual aliveness or it flows toward despair, cynicism, fear that there is not enough, paranoia about the intentions of others, and a desire to control.” ~ Michael Lerner, quoted in “The Great Turning – From Empire to Earth Community,” by David Korten

“It is only with the heart that one can see rightly; what is essential is invisible to the eye.’ ~ Antoine de St. Exupéry in The Little Prince