Cutting the Cord

I was yakking with some women friends recently (one of my very favourite things to do!), & the phrase “Cut the cord” came up. Said with considerable emphasis, I might add.

I got wondering if we might all have something we need to “cut the cord” from:

  • Parents who abuse/d us in any one of a myriad possible ways
  • Relationships that have exceeded their shelf life
  • Interfering in-laws, family members, or friends
  • Obsession with memories – both “good” & “bad”
  • Our former lives
  • Wallowing in self-pity & an “I’m a victim” or “Oh poor me” mentality
  • Our many “mistakes” in life
  • Guilt…shame…regrets...resentments
  • Expectations (of others, of ourselves)
  • Bad/unfulfilling jobs
  • Male entitlement / old patriarchal ways
  • Too much judgment about this, that & the other thing

Well, I had no idea where this little essay was going to go when I sat down to write it. All I had was the phrase “Cut the cord” (& a pen & some paper, of course).

& the list of things to cut the cord from just keeps coming out!

  • materialistic lifestyles / obsession with money & things
  • an Everything is all about ME mentality
  • keeping up with the Joneses
  • venal politicians
  • rapacious corporations
  • apathy
  • nuclear energy
  • attitudes of entitlement & privilege
  • complacency & greed
  • women who gossip & whine endlessly    (Oops!! I’m in a coffee place & being forced to hear more of a conversation than I’d really care to.)

Okay, okay, okay.

Of course, it does take energy to “cut the cord.”

Energy & intention.

So. What have you got planned for the rest of your life? Staying stuck in the same darn old swamp??


‘Quote of the day’ with this post: “Life engenders life. Energy creates energy. It is by spending oneself that one becomes rich.” ~ Sarah Bernhardt, actress (1844-1923)

Runners-up: “The inner fire is the most important thing mankind possesses.” – Edith Sodergran, Scandinavian poet

“What distinguishes one life from another is intention, the one thing that we can control. Rosa Parks’s intentions were deep and unswerving, as were King’s, Thoreau’s, and Gandhi’s … While the events of the world were out of their control, their resolve was not. … How do we sow our seeds when large, well-intentioned institutions and intolerant ideologies that purport to be our salvation cause so much damage? One sure way is through smallness, grace, and locality. Individuals start where they stand and, in Antonio Machado’s poetic dictum, make the road by walking. Thoreau insisted in Civil Disobedience that if only one man withdrew his support from an unjust government, it would begin a cycle that would reverberate and grow. For him there were no inconsequential acts, only consequential inaction: “For it matters not how small the beginning may seem to be: what is once well done is done forever.” – Paul Hawken in Blessed Unrest – How the Largest Movement in the World Came into Being and Why No One Saw It Coming

“Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?” – poet Mary Oliver