<May 21/11> So, it’s Victoria Day weekend in Canada, as I write this. I have a bit of a history of feeling a wee bit lonely & hard done by on long weekends – imagining, as I am wont to do, everyone else on the planet having an uproariously, raucously wonderful time with dearly beloved friends & family. (Yes, quite the imagination, hmmm? )
For sure, I’ve been here before! My unusual & occasionally muddled-seeming life hasn’t turned out quite the way I’d ever had in mind. Mostly I enjoy my considerable freedom, love my life & think of it as a grand, unpredictable adventure...but “long weekends” generally bring out the maudlin in me...if only ever so briefly.
But hey! I can also be pretty smart! I picked up my new copy of Pema Chödrön’s Taking the Leap – Freeing Ourselves from Old Habits & Fears, & started re-reading it. I bought it a few weeks ago, read it in one big gulp (the way I read most things) & laid it aside on my bedside table.
In Chapter 1 of the book, Pema introduces the idea of taking a 3-breath pause several times a day. She suggests that this can get us in touch with our “natural openness, the spaciousness of our skylike minds,” & she also says doing this can help us to stop “strengthening the aggression habit...”
Mmmmmmm. Now that sounds like a pretty fine idea.
For sure, I needed reminding about the pause. I have a pretty busy mind, & pausing to take 3 breaths once in a while really helps bring me back down to Earth.
I’m a big Pema fan. Her words are always gentle, wise, & above all, immensely practical.
Ahhhhhhhhhhh how the moods come & go, hmmmm?
It is very seldom that I feel lonely or hard done by – very seldom indeed.
When one of these feelings does pay a visit, I know enough now to know that they never stick around for very long.
Thanks, Pema, for the pause idea. It really helps!
And thanks too, to Eckhart Tolle, for his simple reminder “This too will pass.”
Hurray for this soooooooooo helpful pair!!
‘Quote of the day’ w. this post: “Sanity is permanent; neurosis is temporary.” – Chögyam Trungpa (from Pema Chödrön’s Taking the Leap – Freeing Ourselves from Old Habits & Fears)