Fighting…Building. Building…Fighting

<Nov. 28’10>

I was at a really cool gathering of people recently (or was it a gathering of really cool people? Hmm. Well, it was both…) who got together to talk about creating an eco-village. As I say, very cool people.

We did a “go-round” so everyone could have the opportunity to say where she or he was from, & what had brought her/him to the gathering.

There was a woman who, as she outlined an issue she has just become involved with, commented “I don’t want to fight.” The words that immediately sprang into my mind were “I don’t want to fight; I want to build.”

I commented on this when it was my turn in the go-round, & added that, as it happens, I seem to be doing both – fighting and building. I suppose, given my druthers, I might rather stick to the building…but you know what comes to mind as I say that? I think of families, & in our families I think we’d all also prefer to stick to building – but sometimes we wind up “fighting(1)”… don’t we?

So, I reckon life is about doing a bit of both fighting & building.

In my own case, for example, I don’t really want to spend a lot of energy fighting the tritium pollution in Pembroke, Ontario – or Bruce Power’s proposed shipment of radioactive steam generators – but it appears I cannot live with myself if I don’t.

So. So it goes.

Fighting…building. Building…Fighting.

I guess the real issue here is balance – striving for an appropriate balance between the two.


P.S. & for sure, not falling prey to utter apathy along the way! Helen Keller said, “Science may have found a cure for most evils; but it has found no remedy for the worst of them all – the apathy of human beings.” Hmmm. She also said (as I discovered when I went seeking her words in my lengthy ‘Quotations’ document), “Many persons have a wrong idea of what constitutes true happiness. It is not attained through self-gratification, but through fidelity to a worthy purpose.”

And…“Although the world is full of suffering, it is full also of the overcoming of it. My optimism, then, does not rest on the absence of evil, but on a glad belief in the preponderance of good and a willing effort always to cooperate with the good, that it may prevail. I try to increase the power God has given me to see the best in everything and every one, and make that Best a part of my life . . . No pessimist ever discovered the secret of the stars or sailed an uncharted land, or opened a new doorway for the human spirit.” – Helen Keller

(1) Fighting is perhaps not the best word here for the … struggles?? ... that take place in our families’ lives. For sure, stuff goes on families (at least in all the ones I’ve ever been involved in, & there have been several of those, what with marriage, divorce, in-laws, outlaws…well, you get my drift, & also bear in mind, I have a pretty wide circle of friends)...whether we are the parents or “children”...that pretty closely resemble fighting. I think our families kinda resemble icebergs. Not so much showing on top – way more stuff below the surface… Trees & roots are like that too, aren't they??