<Feb. 2014>  

I feel surrounded by conflict

In the “outer world,” obviously

Inside my own self, my own mind

Sometimes, of course.


But also in relations

With relations

& sometimes, certain fellow city dwellers.

The people upstairs in my apartment building, say

The noise: the noise noise noise noise

(not that I have said anything to them

Nor will I.

I’m too polite

Too afraid of conflict

With people I do not know

& can’t with any confidence predict).


I’ve lost relationships

(More than once)

Over an inability to address conflict.

To communicate … fully, clearly, honestly, peacefully




Some days it just feels as though

The whole darn thing is going to blow


Any time.


I want to be as helpful

as possible

as peaceful as possible

Both now

Before it blows

& also,

when it blows.





‘Quote of the day’ with this post: “Happiness is not something ready made. It comes from your own actions.” – The Dalai Lama

“Conflict is everywhere: water hitting rock, teachers pushing students to learn, or wolves trying to coexist with ranchers. It is our call to evolve. It challenges us to look beyond our current views to an expanded reality. It is a relentless teacher that asks us to see unity where before we found opposites.” – Deidre Combs, mediation specialist, quoted in Sacred Journey (feb/march 2005) – quoted in Utne Reader May/June 2005

 “Happiness is not the absence of conflict, but the ability to cope with it.” (source unknown) ** lots of gems on happiness here

“Washing one’s hands of the conflict between the powerful and the powerless means to side with the powerful, not to be neutral.” – Paulo Freire, Brazilian educator

 “Pain and conflict are, to a large extent, the result of a discrepancy between the way we think others should treat us, react to us, and appreciate us, and the way they actually do. Many of our miseries are thus rooted in self-pity, the most worthless of all human emotions.” – Ann Davies, Qabalist teacher

“THE WORLD NEEDS a new weapon: the estrogen bomb. Imagine: you drop it on an area of violent conflict, and men throw down their guns, hug each other, apologize and say it was all their fault, and then start to clean up the mess.” – from the UTNE Reader -- Original from THE GUERRILLA GIRLS, activist artists

** Many many many fine, inspiring quotations gathered up here!