Patriarchy (again)

I did a posting about patriarchy several years ago now (May 2/09; it’s here). Patriarchy never goes away; would that it had, or would!

It’s in my thoughts again after a friend told me of a dream she'd had recently. As is so often the case with dreams, she couldn’t recall any details - just that it seemed she was announcing the answer to a question about what “the problem” was. In the dream she shouted “It’s patriarchy!!”

Makes me chuckle every time I think about it. :)

As I say, patriarchy doesn’t just go away because we wish it.

& I have way too much other stuff to work on right now to get down in the weeds & talk about it (again).

I do recall an amazing indictment of patriarchy that I’d kind of forgotten about, & ran across recently.

It’s in the form of a prayer, by the very brilliant Matthew Fox. I’m going to paste it in below. It’s a corker; it really is!

Why now? Well, the personal, as they say, is political. One is confronted with certain situations in life that inevitably remind one that patriarchy (& the devaluation of all things female) is still very much with us.

Sucks, eh? But c’est la vie, as they say.


p.s. in the posting here, I reference books by 2 men who understand patriarchy from the in-side out, & how it affects men (& all of us) today & always. I think you'll find the posting (& especially the books it references) quite worth your time. I'm grateful to have been reminded of the posting/the books. Thanks, blog watchers!!

p.p.s. later posting = 'My First Feminist.' Just re-read & rather enjoyed it. :)


Matthew Fox’s brilliant prayer:

A Litany of Deliverance – A Prayer by Matthew Fox

From Patriarchy’s dualism,

From Patriarchy’s proneness to self-pity,

From Patriarchy’s sentimentalism,

From Patriarchy’s violence,

From Patriarchy’s lack of imagination,

From Patriarchy’s intellectual laziness,

From Patriarchy’s lack of authentic curiosity,

From Patriarchy’s separation of head from body,

From Patriarchy’s separation of body from feelings,

From Patriarchy’s preoccupation with sex,

From Patriarchy’s fear of intimacy,

From Patriarchy’s reptilian brain,

From Patriarchy’s anthropocentrism,

From Patriarchy’s cosmic loneliness,

From Patriarchy’s crucifixion of Mother Earth,

From Patriarchy’s envy and manipulation of children,

From Patriarchy’s abuse of women,

From Patriarchy’s homophobia,

From Patriarchy’s righteousness,

From Patriarchy’s idolatry of nationhood and national security,

From Patriarchy’s forgetfulness of beauty and art,

From Patriarchy’s impotence to heal,

From Patriarchy’s sado-masochism,

From Patriarchy’s parental cannibalism and devouring of its children,

From Patriarchy’s lack of balance,

From Patriarchy’s savaging of the earth,

From Patriarchy’s quest for immortality,

From Patriarchy’s ego,

From Patriarchy’s waste of talent and resources, human and earth,

From Patriarchy’s human chauvinism,

From Patriarchy’s compulsion to go into debt to finance its bloated lifestyles,

From Patriarchy’s matricide, spare us O Divine One.

 Prayer by Matthew Fox.

**To be found in The Coming of the Cosmic Christ – The Healing of Mother Earth and the Birth of a Global Renaissance, (Appendix D), Matthew Fox, HarperSanFrancisco, 1988.

‘Quote of the Day’ with this post: “The trick is to keep exploring and not bail out, even when we find out that something is not what we thought. That’s what we’re going to discover again and again and again. Nothing is what we thought. I can say that with great confidence. Emptiness is not what we thought. Neither is mindfulness or fear. Compassion – not what we thought. Love. Buddha nature. Courage. These are code words for things we don’t know in our minds, but any of us could experience them. These are words that point to what life really is when we let things fall apart and let ourselves be nailed to the present moment.” – Pema Chödrön in the chapter ‘Intimacy with Fear’ in When Things Fall Apart – Heart Advice for Difficult Times (1997)

Bonus Quote:

“When we light

a candle at midnight

we say to the darkness

we beg to differ.”

– graffiti on Queen St. West wall [in Toronto], quoted in the book Say to the Darkness, We Beg to Differ, by Mary Jo Leddy (1990)