Energy Boosters / Energy Suckers

<August 2012> This list started small & just kept growing. Not sure it’s 100% accurate, & it’s almost certainly incomplete – but it’s been fun musing on this idea of what makes us feel energetic, & what (it seems to me, anyway) zaps our vitality.

For sure, I’m all for things that boost my energy!    

Energy Boosters                                    Energy Suckers

Acceptance Rejection / exclusion / judging
Action Apathy
Apology, atonement Guilt, shame, agonizing
Asking questions Impatience, jumping to conclusions, anger *
Attention Mental absence, laziness
Authenticity Phoneyness
Being Here Now being “in the moment” Past & future-surfing. Drama
Bigness (being one’s “big” self) Smallness (being one’s “small” self). Pettiness
Celebration Negative thoughts / judgments, lack of laughter
Community Rejection, exclusion, isolation, feeling separate
Compassion Judgment, rejection, exclusion
Conversation (preferably lively & frequent!) Being lost inside one’s own mind
Consideration Rudeness, failure to consider other’s needs
Courage, bravery Fear, paranoia
Curiosity Assumptions. Jumping to conclusions
Detachment, equanimity, calm Taking everything personally
Enjoyment of Nature & exercise Feelings of deep loss, despair, isolation
Equality Hierarchy, entitlement, feelings of superiority
Expansiveness Constriction (of ideas, oneself & one’s life)
Feeling one’s emotions – all of them Clamping down on / denial of emotions
Flexibility Rigidity, being constricted by set beliefs
Feelings of deep belonging… to a community or family or movement or tribe Everything is all about ME” & also here 
Freedom to be oneself Conformity
Friendliness, friendship Snobbery, snootiness, loneliness, isolation
Generosity, sharing Minginess, possessiveness
Going where the energy is Forcing things. Resisting things
Gratitude  Feelings of entitlement
Growth / Healing Neurosis. Staying “stuck”
Honesty Lies & lying. Obfuscation
Insight(s) Fixed beliefs. Stuck thinking
Integrity Going along. Lying. “Playing the game.”
Intention Lack of life force, vitality
Joy Sadness, anger *
Kindness Meanness
Letting go Controlling, hanging on, holding on, repressing, resentment, resistance
Lightening up Rigidity, heaviness, resentment
Love Hate
Nature!! Too much time indoors
Openness Being closed up inside. Isolation. Defensiveness
Possibility Certainty, closedness, fixed ideas, rigidity
Responsibility Blame, ducking responsibility
Sincerity Phoneyness
Solitude Sensory overload; no time to know yourself
Telling the truth Denial. Lying. Secretiveness. Elephants all over the place…
Trust Fear, isolation, alienation, loneliness
Using your voicespeaking up Feeling nothing you say matters
Walking (& other forms of exercise) Too much time indoors, excessive TV-watching or device fixation



* Anger brings on a kind of energy too – feeling angry gives us a shot of adrenaline, I guess you would say. But acting out of anger somehow just doesn’t usually work out so very-very well, does it?? 

‘Quote of the day’ with this post: “Energy always flows either toward hope, community, love, generosity, mutual recognition, and spiritual aliveness or it flows toward despair, cynicism, fear that there is not enough, paranoia about the intentions of others, and a desire to control.” ~ Michael Lerner, quoted in The Great Turning – From Empire to Earth Community, by David Korten