1. Money buys happiness. Things buy happiness. We can buy our way to happiness. Do I really need to say anything more here?? Surely everyone knows long since that these are the myths of the millennium???
2. Love will last forever. Well. Maybe nobody really buys that one anymore. Or, well, not for long…
3. “It can’t happen here.” You know. A nuclear disaster. A family disaster. A divorce in your wonderful perfect family. A horrible illness. Whatever. (It can always happen here.)
4. The system will look after us. Ha! You kidding me?? Only if we’re in the 1%. And you know what? Not even then. The Earth’s air/water/earth/food/ozone layer are now so badly damaged – climate change ramping up at every turn – not even the rich & powerful can run from it. If you can’t grow the food you need to feed you, & if the climate is going to become unpredictable enough that we can no longer grow food (which seems about 100% inevitable, now) – how can even the rich survive?? Humans gotta eat. (& if the ozone layer is finally totally destroyed, life outside the oceans will not survive. That’s just biology. & the oceans are all messed up. Sadly. Yeah. Really, really badly. We did that.)
5. We can “save the planet.” “Save the humans.” Well, um, I think it’s (long) past that point. Make peace with that. (& sure, it sucks. Be sad! Grieve it. Nothing wrong with that! Lotta posts about grief on this blog, all listed in this posting. & listen, about grief. I think we're ALL grieving. Lots of us just don't know it. Instead, we're angry, or numb. The grief is underneath. How could this not be so??)
6. “Something” or “Somebody” will save us. The government. God. Big Brother. Mom & Pop. The “health” care system. Well. I wouldn’t hold my breath on any one of those agencies/deities/people stepping up to the plate, even if they exist (I personally do not believe in a deity, & I have zero faith in governments/bureaucracies/corporations/the “health care” system). I think we’re on our own. I think we gotta grow up, people. I think we gotta get real.
7. It can’t get any worse. Well. I think we can all feel in our bones the un-truth of that one. I think many of us can feel viscerally that it can get worse, that it is getting worse. By the day, pretty much.
So. What Now, then?
- Speak up
- Make noise
- Be kind
- Be generous
- Quit bitching; start a revolution (saw this on a T-shirt, & love it!)
- Get help, if you need it. Ask for help, if you need it. Offer help, when & where you can.
- Make a difference
- Realize that any privilege/s you have are just that. Privileges. Give thanks ... & give back!
- Learn to be nimble on your feet
- Live in the moment
- Haul your head out of your own arse
- Haul your head out of your damn phone (we need community, people! Community is not found inside a computer or a “smart” phone. We need to be smart for ourselves; damn the damn phones!?)
- Build good memories. Be grateful for the ones you already have
- Say “thank you!” a lot. To everyone, everything. People, the trees, the sky; you know … everything! Gratitude saves our asses!!
- DON’T “count every penny.” Yech. Definitely, definitely NOT.
- Love yourself. Forgive yourself. (Only that way can you love & forgive others)
- Be friendly! (& also mindful of when to keep your distance)
- Be open to small things giving you jolts of joy, after which you can cheerfully say “Well, THAT sure made my day!!” (or tell the person who just made your day, that they just made your day!.That will very likely make THEIR day!)
- Have long, rambling conversations with people you know & care about, &/or with strangers who are open to long, rambling conversations. Conversation is AWEsome.
- Laugh as much as humanly possible.
- Cry sometimes too. We all need that.
- Don’t be afraid of “making an ass of yourself”
- Don’t take yourself too seriously. Lighten up!
- Learn to value circles, not hierarchies & hatreds
#We Are Still Here!
Let’s make use of ourselves for as long as we’re here!
“For the great enemy of truth is very often not the lie – deliberate, contrived, and dishonest – but the myth – persistent, persuasive, and unrealistic. Too often we hold fast to the clichés of our forbears. We subject all facts to a prefabricated set of interpretations. We enjoy the comfort of opinion without the discomfort of thought.” – John F. Kennedy
"One of the saddest lessons of history is this: If we’ve been bamboozled long enough, we tend to reject any evidence of the bamboozle. We’re no longer interested in finding out the truth. The bamboozle has captured us. It’s simply too painful to acknowledge, even to ourselves, that we’ve been taken. Once you give a charlatan power over you, you almost never get it back.” – Carl Sagan, The Demon-Haunted World: Science as a Candle in the Dark