I’ve long been interested in the obsession our species seems to have with control.

(An obsession both species-wide, I would say, & also clearly very much present in many individuals – manifesting, I suppose, in a variety of ways, & for different reasons.)

I’ve written about it here:

& recently posted this photo from my very beloved Meditations for Women Who Do Too Much book.

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&, just ran across another great entry in the book:

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I could go on & on here, about how little control we actually really have over our lives.

And how unpleasant control freakism is for everyone. 🙁

(Seems to me life is a lot more fun without it.)

And the role of patriarchy, & religion, & governments/bureaucracies, & militaries, & so many corporations/advertisers/propaganda purveyors – on who controls what, & whom, & for what purposes…

But you know?

I think it’s time for a beer.


I’ll just throw in some maybe-semi-relevant quotations, instead.


p.s. as regards the patriarchy & governments, corporations, etc., it is generally helpful to always go down the questioning road, being sure to always #FollowTheMoney & #QuestionEverything

A Few Relevant Quotations

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“When patterns are broken, new worlds emerge.” – Tuli Kupferberg

“…the goal of all spiritual life is to get your ego out of the way – outwit the sucker; dissolve it; shoot it; kill it. Silence the incessant planning, organizing, running, manipulating, possessing, and processing”… “because these activities preclude awareness of the Divine.” – Rabbi Lawrence Kushner in his book I’m God, You’re Not

“Planning is not part of our culture. You just get up in the morning and do what you need to do for the day.” – Marilyn Wallace of the Kuku Nyungka ‘mob’ (aboriginal nation) in northern Queensland, Australia. Quoted in Steve Leahy article ‘Indigenous Peoples Needed to Meet the Challenge of Climate Change’ 

“We are not lacking in the dynamic forces needed to create the future. We live immersed in a sea of energy beyond all comprehension. But this energy, in an ultimate sense, is ours not by domination but by invocation.” – Thomas Berry in The Great Work – Our Way into the Future, page 175

“It’s antithetical to the definition of power in this culture that a person might derive power by service rather than control, but that’s the essence of midwifery.” – Elizabeth Davis, Heart & Hands: A Midwife’s Guide to Pregnancy and Birth, quoted in Brezsny’s Pronoia

“Energy always flows either toward hope, community, love, generosity, mutual recognition, and spiritual aliveness or it flows toward despair, cynicism, fear that there is not enough, paranoia about the intentions of others, and a desire to control.” ~ Michael Lerner, quoted in The Great Turning – From Empire to Earth Community, by David Korten

“Our best hope for going forward is learning to let go, and part of that is letting go of anger and delusion. Much of the current finger-pointing is fundamentally conservative as it seeks to maintain an impossible status quo, even if it waves a radical banner. But the big conversations we need to have are with each other. And for that we’re more in need of wounded healers (grateful, uncertain, compassionate, complicit) than raging prophets.” – David Korowicz

“People say that what we’re all seeking is a meaning of life. I don’t think that’s what we’re really seeking. I think that what we’re really seeking is an experience of being alive, so that our life experiences on the purely physical plane will have resonances within our own innermost being and reality, so that we actually feel the rapture of being alive.” – Joseph Campbell, The Power of Myth

“We must be willing to get rid of the life we’ve planned, so as to have the life that is waiting for us.” ~ Joseph Campbell, US folklorist & expert on mythology (1904 - 1987)

“I know what the greatest cure is: it is to give up, to relinquish, to surrender, so that our little hearts may beat in unison with the great heart of the world.” – Henry Miller

“If those in charge of our society - politicians, corporate executives, and owners of press and television - can dominate our ideas, they will be secure in their power. They will not need soldiers patrolling the streets. We will control ourselves.” – Howard Zinn

“A nation that is afraid to let its people judge the truth and falsehood in an open market is a nation that is afraid of its people.” – John F. Kennedy

“Alice Walker says ‘Resistance is the secret of joy’ and I don’t know if it’s the secret of joy, but I know it is definitely the secret of staving off depression. The reality we’re facing is very grave, so how do you not get depressed about it? Well – one way you don’t get depressed is by work.” – Dr. Naomi Oreskes, History of Science professor, Harvard, in ‘Climate Disruption’

“The cure for states is feelings. As I discovered that day in the shower, unlike states, which tend to congeal, feelings will run their own course in due time. Despite the often expressed male fear that if one were to let oneself cry, one would never stop, tears, in fact, eventually taper off if one lets them. Feelings are not endless, but our numbing attempts to avoid them can last a lifetime.” – Terrence Real in I Don’t Want to Talk About It – Overcoming The Secret Legacy of Male Depression

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