What Would Pema (or Eckhart) Do?

Not getting time lately to post much. Have decided to re-post some things I wrote & posted on my “old” blog. Here’s my 2nd re-post (this one originally posted in August 2014).

[The “old” blog is positively bursting with old entries, from 2009-2016. You can access all of it down at the bottom of the main page. Unfortunately, many of the links in the old postings no longer work. Can’t be helped, I’m afraid! Links to external material DO still work; it’s only the ones to INternal material that don’t. All of the old material can be found using the Search function.]

<August 7/14>

So, I’m feeling annoyed with someone for … um … doing something really annoying. I even knew ahead of time this person would do this very specific, exact, annoying thing, & had told myself to not bother being annoyed when it came to pass as I’d predicted.

But I am annoyed. Or, well, I was.

Until I put myself through a mini-Pema (Chödrön) /Eckhart (Tolle) workshop on this morning’s walk.

I was batting it all around in my head (the being annoyed, the internal argument), & then all of a sudden I heard my mind say, “What would Pema (or Eckhart) do?”

& I figured they’d probably think I was just indulging myself in a little drama (we humans DO love our dramas, that’s for sure), & basically letting my little old ego get the best of me.


That made me step back a little & start looking at the whole thing from a bit of a distance.

I realized that as long as I was walking along & staying stuck in my little drama, I felt angry. The anger was not resolving, or dissolving – if anything it was actually getting bigger.

I walked by some candy wrappers on the sidewalk & gave them a vaguely angry look. Normally I’d probably have picked them up to throw them in the next garbage can I spotted (I don’t try to clean up the whole neighborhood or anything, but I do try to do some helpful little bits here & there), but I was too darn busy feeling annoyed.

& gradually it came over me that we all do annoying things to one another from time to time (just show me someone perfect, hmmm?)

& I recalled Eckhart’s great insight about ducks who’ve had a set-to & how they just “flap their wings” & go on about their business.

& after I’d decided to just flap my own wings, I started really noticing (as I usually do) the neat yards I was walking by

Lots & lots of very pretty flowers

& yards with no grass, just plants & hedges & ground covers & so on.

Nice…

Walking is just such a tonic, I tell you!

It really, really is.

Janet

p.s. with many, many thanks to Pema & Eckhart, for their wonderful insights & wisdom & humanity & inspiration.

 

p.p.s. with this re-post: Pema quotes! Some real gems!! How about this one?

“Rather than letting our negativity get the better of us, we could acknowledge that right now we feel like a piece of shit and not be squeamish about taking a good look.”

‘Quote of the day’ with this post: “Epictetus says that everything has two handles, one by which it can be borne and one by which it cannot. If your brother sins against you, he says, don’t take hold of it by the wrong he did you but by the fact that he’s your brother. That’s how it can be borne.” – character in Anne Tyler’s novel Noah’s Compass

Bonus quotes:

“Holding onto a resentment is like eating rat poison and waiting for the rat to die.” – Anne Lamott in her novel Crooked Little Heart

“It isn’t the big pleasures that count the most, it’s making a big deal out of the little ones.” – Jean Webster

Worrier or Warrior?

Not getting time lately to post much. This is very frustrating! I’m writing – but never seem to have  enough time (or energy) to edit & post the new stuff. I’ve decided to re-post some things I wrote & posted on my “old” blog. Here’s my 1st re-post (originally posted in February 2014).

[The “old” blog is positively bursting with old entries, from 2009-2016. You can access all of it down at the bottom of the main page. Unfortunately, many of the links in the old postings no longer work. Can’t be helped, I’m afraid! Links to external material DO still work; it’s only the ones to internal material that don’t. All of the old material can be found using the Search function.]

 

** Note: minor edits have been made…

No time to explain why I’m on this right now, OK?

Visit this site about being a worrier, or a warrior & hear a short (9-minute) interview on the topic

& then check this out

 

& Hey! If you’d rather be a worrier than a warrior, you go for it!

Me, I’ll take warrior-ing over worry-ing any old day.

wink...

Janet

‘Quote of the Day’ with this post: “If you need to feel hope, you’re courting despair, and if you court despair you will stop working. So try to wean yourself from this need to have hope. Try to have faith instead, to do what you can, and stop worrying about whether or not you’re effective...Worry about what is possible for you to do, which is always greater than you imagine.” ~ Oscar Romero

More:

“So long as I breathe and have the strength to do it, I will not cease philosophizing, exhorting you, indicting whichever of you I happen to meet, telling him in my customary way: Esteemed friend, citizen of Athens, the greatest city in the world, so outstanding in both intelligence and power, aren’t you ashamed to care so much to make all the money you can, and to advance your reputation and prestige – while for truth and wisdom and the improvement of your soul you have no care or worry?” – Socrates, Greek philosopher, 469-399 B.C.

“Don’t worry about what others think, they don’t do it very often.” – Source unknown

“Worry never robs tomorrow of its sorrow. It only saps today of its joy.” – sign on church billboard

“If they can get you asking the wrong questions, they don’t have to worry about answers.” – Gravity’s Rainbow, Thomas Pynchon, 1973

“A candle loses none of its light by lighting another candle.” – Source unknown

“A thousand words will not leave so deep an impression as one deed.” – Henrik Ibsen

“I have, despite all disillusionment, never, never allowed myself to feel like giving up. This is my message today; it is not worthy of a human being to give up.” ~ Alva Myrdal, Nobel Peace Prize winner [I needed to hear this!!]

 

Forgiveness Work

I recently heard a doctor use the phrase “forgiveness work.”

She was referring to the fact that she (& many M.D.s over the years/decades) have either a) vaccinated children, not really knowing what possible harm/s they might’ve been causing or b) told parents their children’s (often immediate, sometimes extreme) reaction to a vaccination could not possibly be connected with said vaccination. (So, it must be said, their training & “superiors” trained them to do.)

Then, in later years, realized that vaccines can in no way be accurately described as “safe.” & that they have likely a) harmed a child/children/people along the way directly themselves, &/or b) failed to provide reasonable care & compassion to people/families/children affected negatively by vaccine injury/death.

It was a moving moment when this doctor (a woman) said this to her interviewer (also a doctor, also a woman). I know I was teary-eyed – as was the interviewer.

I’ve been pondering the idea of forgiveness work of late … for my own personal reasons.

I wonder if maybe a lot of us have a little (or a lot) of forgiveness work to … work on.

I think we have likely all done harm of one sort or another. In the case of parents of my generation (I’m a senior citizen now, with grandchildren) – we (unwittingly) exposed our children to a whole barrage of toxins we could not have named, had never even heard of ... let alone knew we were bathing our children in ... both inside & out. We were (unwitting, involuntary) conduits for a massive toxic experiment in which we had no idea we occupied a starring role.

sigh.....

I’m not even sure I know what “forgiveness work” means, or consists of.

But the term resonates for me, & I’m going to let it wander around in my mind, & my heart, & see where it goes.

Janet