Motherhood: It sure keeps us humble!

Once upon a time, I wrote a book of letters to a young mother-to-be (not one of my daughters, just to keep the record straight).

I never really put any energy into getting the collection published. I was always too busy with other things.

But some of the letters spring to mind occasionally.

Here's one of the ones that came back into my mind just now:

November 9, 2005.

Dear Rebecca:

There's something I’ve had in my mind for some time, and just haven’t managed to get around to writing to you about…

It’s this: I have a notion that there is very seldom much danger that any woman who is a mother will ever wind up with a really swelled head about how great she (supposedly) is. Which is a good thing, in my view… I think some men (perhaps quite a few, even) have rather overblown notions about their greatness. A little humility can be a very good thing for all of us, I think…

Why do I think women have a tendency toward modesty?

Because our children keep us humble…

If, once in a while, we happen to get a slightly inflated sense of our own importance (this can happen to all of us, from time to time), along comes one of our children to cut us right back down to size.

They certainly have no illusions about how great we are. They (and our partners, of course) have seen us exhausted, harried, scowling – witchy, even! They’ve been on the receiving end of our bad moods, neuroses, impatience, and our all-too-numerous imperfections – and this is probably a good thing. I reckon the world has already seen enough grandiose characters who make lots and lots of money, doing lots and lots of damage to other people and the planet. High fliers whose contributions to humanity are, shall we say, less than entirely laudable.

Best, I think, if we all keep our feet firmly planted on the ground – keeping the world around us as sane and safe and healthy as possible – and aiming all the while, maybe, as mothers, to raise children who will be able to love and respect and appreciate us as mothers…and not feel the need for years and years of therapy to recover from our (mis)treatment of them.

I’m remembering Mother Duck again. She just quietly and calmly goes about the business of raising her brood so they can go out into the world and be reasonable grown-up ducks – generation after generation after generation…



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Dear Abby / Young Mom

Dear Abby / Young Mom:


So, I’m writing in response to an item I saw on your Facebook page the other day.

About measles. This item from Global News.

I thought about a few things in response that I think a lot of people don’t know about vaccines (none of which I had a clue about myself, until I was more or less propelled into this issue 2 years ago now).

I’m 65 now (geez: an old broad!). So, for 63 years of my life, I had no knowledge or understanding about vaccines. No curiosity, either! (In retrospect, I have to admit this stuns me more than just a little.)

Then I became a grandmother, & somewhat by fluke, became curious, & began to dig.

It’s been a heckuva roller coaster ride & a very steep learning curve.

There’s really a ton I could say (& have said, oh my word! Tons of blog postings about it – up over 20, now).

But I want to try & condense my message to you here into as few paragraphs as possible. Young Moms are busy people!

Please understand, this is in fact a deep & complex topic. But here’s the point: if you decide to explore it for yourself – even just a little, which is exactly what I’m advocating you do – you’ll soon discover this for yourself. I don’t have to explain all of it here, in its considerable depth. You can do your own digging perfectly well. (& Hey! You don’t have to become obsessed by it, as I have. Learn some basic stuff, & then get on with your busy life!)

# 1 is, get hold of an “insert” or “monograph” for, say, the MMR vaccine. The doctors (or nurses) should be providing us with these any & every single time we go to them for a “shot” (& for every single different vaccine thrown at our babies in one visit)but they don’t. There is a lot of really important information in these & you need to get it, & READ it, before you make the decision that vaccines are “safe and effective.” All the way through. (No, I never did this myself, when my own children were young. Mea culpa! Big time! Millions of us didn’t. We didn’t know we needed to! We just mindlessly trusted (& obeyed) our doctors. I’m now wondering, at 65, about side effects I suspect my children had, that I didn't have a clue about then! Simply never put 2 & 2 together. This is not a comfortable thing to be looking at in the rear view mirror, believe me.) ** I am attaching the panel for the MMR shot with info on side effects, okay? Here. Here is what the whole thing looks like. & here is what the Adverse Reactions section has.

# 2: Kids are given WAY more shots (since 1989 or so) than they used to be!  The schedule for Ontario is here & if you go here, you can find out all the other provinces’ schedules. The bump-up is because of 2 things:

1: Vaccine manufacturers (i.e., pharmaceutical companies) being released from liability for vaccine injury (the U.S. Congress gave them this gift in 1986). Meaning, if they injure you or your child? They don’t have to pay (at that link? A 5-minute lecture with a ton in it; really worth watching!) The scene in Canada is not exactly the same: lawsuits are still possible, but only rarely succeed or when a lawsuit does result in compensation, the files are sealed; secret; not available to the public so it amounts to a system very much weighted in favour of the pharmaceutical industry and lack of transparency. And we have no vaccine injury compensation system in Canada at all. In terms of the bump-up in the # of vaccines being given, this has definitely been the case in Canada since the late 1980s, as you can see when you look at the Ontario schedule linked to above.


2: Money. There is a boatload of $$$ to be made in the vaccine biz, & the pharmaceutical companies are cleaning up (I've heard it described as a $25 billion global enterprise). Follow the money, eh? Always, always, always (& I think you know this from other issues) # Follow. The. Money

# 3 follows closely on # 2. No science was ever done, no science has ever established, that it’s safe to give tiny babies/young children so many shots at the same time. And it isn’t! Combining Childhood Vaccines at One Visit Is Not Safe.

*** Sorry. I’m already going on longer than I meant to!? I wanted to be done by now!

# 4: Vaccine injury is WAY more common than the medical establishment lets on. I think this was covered in that item mentioned in # 3 (on combining vaccines). Only a tiny, tiny fraction (some say as little as 1%) of vaccine injuries are recorded in any vaccine injury reporting system (in the U.S. it’s called VAERS, or Vaccine Adverse Event Reporting System; in Canada there is a much less coherent system; you can learn more if you decide to do more research; this report on Vaccine Choice Canada can help). To short-form it, injury is very (very) common indeed.  I know I’ve been totally taken aback by the # of my friends whose kids were vaccine-injured. I discussed that here: Vaccines: My Friends’ Stories. Warriors.

# 5: Unfortunately, you can’t trust MSM (mainstream media) to tell us the truth about anything to do with vaccines. Why? Because pharmaceutical companies advertise in them (yes, even the CBC), & advertisers basically determine editorial policy for mainstream publications (even some less mainstream ones; advertisers RULE). This has always been the case, actually … but has always occurred beneath the consciousness of maybe most of us, even those among us who frankly should have known better. There's more about this piece of the puzzle in the posting Vaccines: Miscellany, A - Z under the topic heading ‘Media Blackout’.

# 6: Vaccination is NOT mandatory in Canada – though things seem to be moving swiftly in that direction. And the school system (& “health” units) have become scarily aggressive on this front (especially in Ontario). Vaccinations are NOT mandatory. This is likely a topic you're going to need to dig into later on, & I suggest the main page on Vaccine Choice Canada for what you need to know about “exemptions,” & everything to do with that topic, alright? (Look for the small dark-coloured box on the left-hand side.)

Abby .........

So much more I want to, & could, say!  E.g. about childhood illnesses being “normal,” & in fact important creators of life-long immunity (fabulous, short Dr. Suzanne Humphries item about this, here).

About immune activation

& aluminum in vaccines. (Great source on these 2 very key topics: Vaccine Papers)


But I really want to keep this as brief as possible.

My simple advice to young parents is this: If you’ve already begun getting your child/ren vaccinated, please stop. Hit the ‘Pause’ button.  If you haven’t begun; great! Keep it up!

Call a time-out. Delay, delay, & then delay some more.

No more needles for now.

Educate, before you vaccinate.

There’s a pretty good chance you might regret getting your child/ren vaccinated (for the rest of your, & her / his life; & no, I'm not exaggerating about this).

You will almost certainly NEVER regret having taken a pause to learn more. (If you've already started? It's STILL very much worth taking a pause. Never too late to do that! A time-out. Really! You need to learn more before you proceed. Please trust me on this. & no, I'm not making a cent doing what I do, saying what I say. Unlike the pharmaceutical industry... #Follow. The. Money.)


p.s. & this, Abby (not my Facebook friend’s real name, btw):

When I was about 6 months into becoming a vaccine skeptic (remember that I spent 63 years of my life NOT being one), I went to see my doctor. The main thing I really wanted to chat about was vaccines. (I don’t go to the doctor much, & he knows this, & we both know I’m a pretty skeptical medical “consumer,” shall we say … but that’s a whole different essay :) ).

I told him how much digging, & reading, & documentary-watching I’d done (a lot), & he said, right off the top, “Well you probably know more about vaccines now than anyone.” Which kinda took me by surprise at the time.

But now I’ve heard doctor after doctor admit this: they are taught almost nothing about vaccines in med school. Basically, just “Vaccines work! Give them.” (relevant quote on this below)

So, they do give them. & again, more could be said here – but we’re keeping this brief.

Listen. Mothers are smart. We have good intuition(s) about our wee babies/children. & we are also capable of moving mountains, pretty much, on a daily basis.

The thing is, it’s a whole lot easier to move mountains before you have a vaccine-injured child, than it’s liable to be afterward.

& since you cannot know ahead of time whether or not your child will be injured & since it’s become pretty clear to most of us that our children are in pretty rough shape these days  & since vaccines are a “one size fits all” phenomenon (i.e., they are not tailored to any individual child’s genetic make-up or health/medical/environmental/life experience) – you need to learn about vaccine risks (& their contents, also, which are liable to surprise you – especially the level of contaminants in them) ... AHEAD OF TIME.


p.p.s. Ted Kuntz wrote to Global, btw, in response to that article about measles. You can read his letter here

p.p.p.s. Finally, I beg & implore you to watch this YouTube. About the Catone family, & their beloved son Nicholas. It could very well rock your world. It's a story that involves both your heart & your head. Two very bright, very articulate, very caring, devoted parents (the mother a nurse, the father a famous wrestler) tell their tragic story – & in so doing, educate (& warn) us all.


Resources for Busy Parents


Sites with GOBS of great info

** this is only a teeny-tiny smattering of the helpful information that’s “out there,” btw.


A Few Quotations that Spring to Mind

“Vaccination isn’t prevention. To the contrary, you are injecting into healthy bodies the very disease-causing agents you are so afraid of contracting. Nor does vaccination equate to bona fide immunity. The only guaranteed immunity it generates is for the vaccine manufacturers who are indemnified against the potentially catastrophic damages they cause.” – from Sayer Ji, founder of GreenMedinfo

“I was once an idiot. I once thought that people who didn’t vaccinate were taking advantage of all the people that were. I thought that they were being privileged opportunists, and I was a vaccinating doctor, because I was taught nothing about vaccines, because I had never met an unvaccinated child. But once I met unvaccinated children, and started seeing problems first-hand with vaccinations in my own patients – and started doing my own research – I flipped around 180 degrees. And I’ve known other doctors that were able to do that as well, and some of them, because parents like you have presented the facts to them – quietly, calmly and rationally. That’s key.” – Dr. Suzanne Humphries in her Nov. 2015 lecture Trojan Horses & Cluster Bombs (At this link, Dr. Humphries in an 11-minute YouTube on vaccine safety, efficacy, history; how the immune system works, the importance of breastfeeding, aluminum in vaccines - much important material covered in a record short time!)

“With what I now know, I cannot support mandatory vaccines for children.  Some kids respond well to vaccines, but others do not.  How can we be sure who will and who will not?  Should we really sacrifice one for many?  Parents have to have the right to choose!  Parents have to make their own informed decisions.  Parents deserve access to this information which has been buried so deep that even I, a practicing physician, hadn’t been aware of.” – Dr. Rachel Ross, MD & PhD  

“People keep asking me if I’m scared to speak about this.  My realest fear is that we will continue to assume that these moms are making this stuff up.” – Dr. Rachel Ross, MD & PhD

“They don’t teach us about the ingredients, they don’t teach us about the studies behind it…what they teach us is that they’ve always been given.” – Dr. Rachel Ross

“One of the saddest lessons of history is this: If we’ve been bamboozled long enough, we tend to reject any evidence of the bamboozle. We’re no longer interested in finding out the truth. The bamboozle has captured us. It’s simply too painful to acknowledge, even to ourselves, that we’ve been taken. Once you give a charlatan power over you, you almost never get it back.” – Carl Sagan, The Demon-Haunted World: Science as a Candle in the Dark

“To learn who rules over you, simply find out who you are not allowed to criticize.” – Voltaire

“It is difficult to get a man to understand something when his salary depends upon his not understanding it.” – Upton Sinclair

“It’s not really fair to ask for an objective opinion from anyone who has a vested interest in what they’re selling.” – Alan Cassels, pharmaceutical policy researcher, in an article in August 2014 Common Ground magazine

** Lots more quotations here   

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** an entire posting full of other helpful, pithy graphics is here Vaccines: Graphics